dudes and candy coated evil.

the deal is, just because we have vaginas does not mean that we want to use them specifically on you.

because you find a female attractive does not mean that she finds the same in you. and if she politely lets u know such, she is not being rude or disrespectful...she just doesn't want you. it's that simple.

just like u have a type of girl u like, she has a type of guy that she likes. and because she falls into ur 'type of girl' realm does not automatically put u in her 'type of guy' realm. that should not destroy ur ego. the reality is, u DO fall in someone's 'type of guy' realm, and u need to find that person. and if that person doesn't fall into ur 'type of girl' realm, then u should be all the more understanding when this same thing happens to u.

having a vagina does not automatically attract u to everything with a penis.

in addition dudes, do not offer any kind of fake politeness if ur desire is for requital. if i don't ask for a favor, and u do me a favor, DO NOT expect me to repay with my number...or vagina.

because i accept ur "politeness" does not mean i want u. i'm polite to homeless people...i'm not trying to date them. i'm polite to old people. i'm not trying to date them. i'm polite to many a dude that i'm not trying to date. why is it when a dude does something nice, they think u owe them?

por ejemplo: i asked a security dude if i could borrow his battery for one minute to call my friend at this concert. he said, u could just use my phone. i said, are u sure? i don't want to use ur minutes. he said, just use my phone. i did. it took one minute. he said, so now u gonna give me ur number. so wait...because i needed to make a call automatically means u look good to me. at what point did these things cross? i had no idea that needing to make a call meant that i wanted to get to know u. so. NO. I'm not giving u my number. and if that's why u were letting me use ur phone, u should've just said no. i've let people i don't know use my phone in emergency like situations...i work at a club. people's batteries die and sometimes they need to make a call. i don't do it to get something in return. dudes...that f*cked up.

and it'll never jingle my babies.

yo! i went to starbucks on wednesday. i went to the counter to order my drink. it's $5.15. i know cuz i have to drink caffeine (i thought it was i before e except after c?...whateva) before work or i'm likely to be unlikeable. so i get the same joint all the time. and i hate coffee. so this day, the dude that makes the joints is like come tell me what u want. i'm like 'soy caramel macchiato son'. he's like 'alright.' i walk over to the register to tell dude what i'm getting so i can pay. the other dude is like 'nah just wait right here, i'll make it for u'. i'm like 'cool'. then he starts talking. i didn't look like i wanted to talk. i couldn't have. cuz i didn't want to. or maybe i'm just pleasant faced. (i doubt it). but he started talking. and he asked me for my number. for some coffee? damn. u givin' me some coffee that i would have gladly paid for, so i'm 'poseta give u my number? no sir. when did ur decision to give me a free coffee make me want u to take me out? the answer: it didn't. at no point did i express an interest in anything but my coffee.

this brings me to this point:
if a girl wants u, she will let u know.
if u are not getting a signal from a chick, there is none.
u CANNOT turn a chicks signal on and shine it at urself.
this ain't gotham city.
if she wants u, u will know.
and if she doesn't, u will know.
take that hint that she gives...
u know what i'm talking about.
the annoyed tone of voice, rushed conversation, disinterest in u or what u have to say, change of topic..all that.
and use it.
this spares u embarassment, frustration, and hurt of ego.
we try so hard to let u down easy...and u make it so hard to be nice sometimes.
i said no with a smile ;).
take it and have a good day.

the guy i would've given my number to (i'm letting out secrets take notes):
i was at a birthday party long time ago...
had a couple fun brownies...was feelin' nice.
dancin' with some of my co-workers and ish.
we were having fun.
laughing.
being stupid.
etc.
dude sees us, comes over with his bottle, pours us each a glass of champagne, says 'enjoy ladies' and bounces.
yes!
he was just being a gentleman.
saw some chicks having a good time.
wanted to add to the fun.
and bounce.
not for something in return.
good guy.
good, good guy.
stop doing shit to be requited.
it's wack.
and it makes u look wack.
and i hate it.
and u suck